When they find that your ex is saying negative things about you in front of your child - most women respond with fear, anger, and frustration.
You are a hardworking, honest, and selfless person - and you certainly don’t deserve to experience these kinds of attacks.
So, how can you cope with an ex that is saying negative things behind your back? How can you reassure your child, while dealing with this problem so it simply doesn’t happen again?
“It takes practice, but you can learn to address misinformation about you (and redress the emotional damage it causes) without resorting to counter attacks or pulling your kids into an alliance against their other parent,” says an article in the Huffington Post.
Let’s take a look at just a few ways to make that happen.
Be Diligent
Make a personal commitment to keep conversations about your ex positive when you’re speaking with your child.
“Keep a conscious diligence on your commentary and your ex is more likely to follow suit as well,” says Sedacca, “If he or she doesn’t, your kids will naturally pick up on the different energy and gravitate toward the parent taking the high road.”
Set the Tone
“Keep your side of the street clean,” says Honoree Corder, “Your ex is going to do what they’re going to do. You can’t control them now any more than you could when you were together. What you can control is you!”
Embrace the things you can control. Set a positive tone, and simply avoid saying anything negative about your ex in front of your child. Take advantage of the fact that you are one half of this parenting team, and you have the power to keep at least half of this conversation healthful.
Take the High Road
Rising above the negativity will lift the weight of worry from your child’s shoulders, and will help you stay healthy. Also, your ex will notice that negative comments have little or no effect on you - and that there’s simply no reason to continue making accusations.
Taking the high road will help to de-escalate the situation so you can effectively move forward.
