The Biggest Secrets About How to Get Through a Breakup: Part II

You already know that going through a breakup means allowing your feelings to come to the surface, and finding safe places to process those feelings.

In this second of our three-part installment, we’ll look at two more proven ways to move forward during a breakup:


Ask for Help

“At some point, even the best of us need help,” says coach Krista Rizzo, “as soon as you begin to implement asking for help in your life, your mindset will shift, your priorities will change, and you’ll have the ability to focus on you...”


Asking for help could include seeing a coach or a therapist, or going to a trusted friend for advice. It could also look like hiring a house cleaner or asking a family member or baby sitter to watch the kids for an hour while you take some time for yourself.


Neglecting to ask for help will negatively impact your relationships with your kids, your friends, your colleagues, and most importantly - it will negatively impact you.


When you gain the courage to ask for help, you finally unlock opportunities, and free up the energy to be resilient.


Make Big Mistakes

As Albert Einstein once said, “anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”


Mistakes are chances to grow. They are opportunities to recognize new paths forward, learn new skills, and to develop your sense of self. Those who shy away from mistakes miss some of the most valuable experiences in life.


“... some failure in life is inevitable,” says author J.K. Rowling, “It is impossible to live life without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.”


Use Your Falls as a Catalyst

Remember, every mistake is an opportunity. And asking for help from friends and professionals will allow you to use this part of your life as a chance for growth. The falls you take will no longer be monsters you don’t want to face, but challenges you have both the skills and the resolve to overcome.

Part I and III Summary: In the first installment of this series, we discussed the importance of letting your feelings emerge, and effective methods for processing those emotions. In the third part of this series, we’ll talk about how to trust that things will get better, so you can move forward with your life.

About Bonfami: Bonfami is working to improve the childhoods of kids whose parents have separated or divorced by turning “co-parenting” into collaborative parenting!


Phina Pipia

Phina Pipia is passionate about helping single moms and step families navigate new roles, develop positive strategies, and build strong relationships that keep them healthy, happy, and thriving. As a full-time writer, Phina develops marketing copy for successful brands around the globe; including Johnson & Johnson, The Core Results, and yes… Bonfami! She is also the tuba player for The Unexpected Brass Band; performs with the magic & mind-reading duo, The Psychic Dynasty; and tours her original work as a singer-songwriter.

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