Part III: So Wait… Just What is Co-Parenting Again?

Co-parenting means choosing to maintain a commitment to your child and to collaborating with your child's other parent.

When you experience a divorce or separation, there are seemingly thousands of things to consider - from where you’ll be living, to how you’ll manage a new financial situation.

One of the biggest questions for newly separated parents is - “how will we continue to parent our kids?”

If you’re a newly divorced or separated parenting, you’ve probably heard the term “co-parenting”.

In this three-part series, we’re taking a deeper look at what “co-parenting” means. And in this third installment, we’re looking at one of the core features of co-parenting, “commitment”.

The Art of Commitment

If you’ve divorced or separated, you’re no longer in a committed romantic relationship with your child’s other parent.

However, co-parenting means maintaining a commitment to your child, and also making a commitment to an ongoing collaboration with your child’s other parent.

If that feels overwhelming - don’t worry! Making a co-parenting commitment is simple, straightforward, and can be divided into these three easy areas:

Commitment to Now

Co-parenting means making a commitment to being there for your child, and to collaborating with your co-parent today.

Commitment to the Process

It also means committing to the process of collaborative decision-making and shared responsibility with your co-parent - in whatever form that takes.

Commitment to the Future

Most importantly, you’re making a commitment to your child not just today - but through all their challenges, accomplishments, and triumphs in the future.

A Dedication to an Evolving Experience

If you do choose to co-parent, you will likely go through multiple iterations of your co-parenting schedule, processes, communication methods, and situation. Nothing in co-parenting is ever etched into stone, as children’s needs develop on a daily basis.

Remember that as your child or children grow, your co-parenting responsibilities will evolve and change as well.

One of the main features of co-parenting is dedicating yourself to your child, and to the evolving process of sharing responsibility for raising that child.

Summary of Part I and II: In part one of this series, we talked about the collaborative aspects of co-parenting. In part two , we looked at the communication features of co-parenting.

About Bonfami: Bonfami is working to improve the childhoods of kids whose parents have separated or divorced by turning “co-parenting” into collaborative parenting!


Phina Pipia

Phina Pipia is passionate about helping single moms and step families navigate new roles, develop positive strategies, and build strong relationships that keep them healthy, happy, and thriving. As a full-time writer, Phina develops marketing copy for successful brands around the globe; including Johnson & Johnson, The Core Results, and yes… Bonfami! She is also the tuba player for The Unexpected Brass Band; performs with the magic & mind-reading duo, The Psychic Dynasty; and tours her original work as a singer-songwriter.

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